I never really thought much about my mattress, I assumed it was doing the job it was supposed to: provide a space for sleep and pleasure. That was until I got a new one. And let me tell you, the difference has been life changing. I went from tossing and turning (not in a good way), and waking up lethargic to sleeping through the night like a dream. But what I didn’t expect? Just how much better sleep would impact my happiness, my energy, and yes, my libido.
I always talk about how important rest is for our sex lives, but experiencing it firsthand really drove the point home. Classic me, dishing out sage wisdom to everyone else and yet not listening to my own advice! Upgrading to a Comfi mattress was like upgrading my entire quality of life, and I’m here to spill the spicy details.
If you’re not sleeping well, you’re probably not feeling sexy. Science backs this up: poor sleep messes with your hormones, lowers testosterone and estrogen, and leaves you feeling exhausted rather than energised for intimacy. A study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine even found that for every extra hour of sleep, women had a 14% higher chance of wanting sex the next day. Who knew catching more Z’s could lead to catching more…well, feels for sexy time…you get where I’m going with this…
I’m so grateful to have been introduced to the amazing women Vicki and Susie at Comfi. We first worked together discussing the importance and link between sleep, menopause and libido. We had a really beautiful and frank chat about everything that impacts women around this stage of life. You can watch this here
When I told Vicki and Susie that my bed was over 10 yrs old their faces said everything that they were too polite to say! (Which I knew would have been hard for Vicki!) I came to realise my bed was basically a battleground. One night I’d be overheating like a human furnace, and the next, I’d be cold and finding extra blankets to layer on top. Plus, every time my lover moved it felt like an earthquake. I just thought this was normal and blamed him for being a rotisserie chicken.
We decided then and there that it was time for an upgrade. I told Vicki and Susie my needs and desires for my new bed. I wanted something that would regulate temperature (because let’s be real, the battle of “window open vs. extra blanket” is never-ending) and to not feel the other person in the bed.. Ever… unless that's exactly what I wanted. Being looked after at Comfi was such a fun, easy experience. I thought I would be palmed off to someone else but it was Vicki and Susie who I was in touch with the whole time. They told me my brief was easy. We decided on the Comfi Luxe Mattress.
I had a ceremonious farewell for my old mattress the night before. I made sure there was not one bit of spring left in it. On the day of delivery I was so excited! I was ready to welcome the new! The delivery guys were legends and in their tight Hi vis they assembled the bed for me. I couldn’t have asked for a better first few moments with my new bed, and my new capable man friends.
I’ve had two weeks of sleeping on my new Comfi mattress now and I feel like I haven’t had time to enjoy it because my head hits the pillow, my body gets held as I melt in and then I’m off to shnoozleland. I wish I was aware of how much of a good time i was having while I’m asleep but I’m that out to it that I couldn’t tell you. But I can tell you how I feel when I wake up and the impact it’s had on me. True to the owners word it kept the airflow steady, which meant I wasn’t overheating at 3 a.m. anymore. It also absorbed the movement, so I wasn’t being woken up every time my partner rolled over. Instead of restless, broken sleep, I was getting full nights of deep, uninterrupted rest. And wow, did that change my energy levels, happiness output and sensual desire.
I didn’t realise how much this impacted me until I got good sleep. I started waking up refreshed instead of irritated, and my body actually felt rested. That alone was a game-changer—but the ripple effects were even bigger.
I noticed that I wasn’t just less tired—I was actually waking up excited for the day. More energy meant I was more playful, more present, and more in the mood for intimacy. It turns out that good sleep isn’t just about not feeling tired—it’s about feeling alive. And when you feel alive, desire comes naturally.
If you have a Comfi mattress then you know what I’m talking about. So if you are feeling well rested, you may be more interested in exploring different ways to turn up the heat. If you’ve managed to get this far with me then you know that The bedroom is more than just a place for rest. It can be a sanctuary for connection, intimacy, and sensual exploration. If you're looking to bring some excitement back into your bedroom, don’t worry; you’re not alone, and the good news is, it can be a lot of fun!
Here are five tips to help you transform your space and spark your passion.
1. Set the Scene with Sensory Details
Your environment plays a huge role in creating a mood. Start by considering how your bedroom feels to all five senses. Is the lighting soft and inviting? Scent can also be a powerful aphrodisiac—diffuse essential oils like ylang-ylang, sandalwood, or vanilla to create a warm, sensual vibe. Luxurious textures like soft linens, plush throws, or silk sheets can make your bed an irresistible retreat.
2. Prioritise Comfort
Your bed is the centerpiece of intimacy, so investing in a high-quality mattress and supportive pillows is key. If your bed isn’t comfortable, it’s hard to feel fully present. Choose bedding that feels indulgent—natural fabrics like cotton or wool. It not only feels great but are breathable and temperature-regulating, which helps maintain the heat of passion without breaking a sweat.
3. Introduce Playfulness and Exploration
Spicing things up doesn't mean you have to be wild—it’s about curiosity and fun. Start small by introducing new elements like a sexy playlist, mood lighting, or a playful card game designed for couples. For those feeling more adventurous, consider trying sensory play with items like blindfolds, feathers, or massage oils.
4. Schedule Time for Intimacy (but Keep It Spontaneous)
In our busy lives, intimacy can sometimes fall by the wayside. Try scheduling a "bedroom date night" not to make it feel like a chore, but to create anticipation. The key is balancing planning with spontaneity: light some candles, surprise your partner with a new idea, or even just linger in a warm embrace. Remember this doesn’t mean you are contractually obliged to do anything sexy, it is just dedicated time to be intimate, which may just mean having some quality time together talking or touching without any intention to go further. Not having any pressure feels yummy to the nervous system.
5. Communicate Desires with Confidence
Spicing up the bedroom starts with honest communication. If there’s something you’ve been wanting to try, share it with your partner in a lighthearted, playful way. A simple “Hey, what do you think about trying this together?” can open the door to deeper connection and more exciting experiences.
Investing in sleep really is investing in pleasure. I had no idea how much my old mattress was affecting my life—until I replaced it. Now, I’m sleeping better, I’m happier, and my sex life has gotten a major boost. If you’ve been feeling sluggish, unmotivated, or just off, consider your sleep quality. Upgrading to a mattress that supports you (literally and figuratively) could be the key to unlocking more energy, better moods, and way more intimacy.
My advice? Invest in your sleep. Your future well-rested, well-pleasured self will thank you.
Written by Morgan Penn, Somatic Sexologist